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Understanding your Community and ways to connect

  • Newsfeed

    When you open Fetish.com, you will directly see the newsfeed (Home) to view all the kinky stuff around you.  You can filter by type of newsfeed, gender, age, city, radius, or relationship status. To c...

  • BDSM Compatibility Test - View Matches

    Once you've completed the test, you'll then be taken to an area where you'll see those Kinksters who match with you. It's then up to you to make the first move!...

  • BDSM Compatibility Test

    Understanding yourself is essential when venturing into the world of kink, especially if you're new to the scene. So, before diving in head-first all whips, ropes, and chains, it's worth figuring out ...

  • Message Symbols

    The status of a message is displayed in your mailbox with various icons. 1 tick: Message sent  2 ticks: Message read  Trash bin: Message deleted Crossed-out eye: Message hidden Star: Premium membershi...

  • Voice Messages

    Instead of writing a private message, you can also send it as a voice message. Simply click on the microphone icon to the left of the entry field....

  • Kinky Gifts

    You can give members a gift. To do this, open the profile and click on the Gift button. Select a gift from the list that is shown in a separate window. A gift ‘costs’ between 75 and 125 community poin...

  • First Contact/Icebreaker Limits

    A first contact or 'Icebreaker' is a message to a member who has never sent you a message before.  Once a member has replied to you or written to you directly, it is no longer a first contact. You can...

  • Collecting Community Points

    Activity on Fetish.com is rewarded with community points, e.g. when replying to a message, recruiting new users (for which you receive the maximum number of 200 points per real new member), uploading ...

  • Visibility Of Friends

    You can set this yourself. In the friends list, you can click on Edit for each friend and set whether they should be publicly visible as your friend and whether your name should appear on their profil...

  • Friend Request

    Call up the desired profile and click on the menu button (far right) 'Save', then on the selection field 'As friend'. Now you can add a personal message to your friend request. You can also choose fro...